How Does an Empowering Question Feel?

In the last post, I gave examples of an empowering question and a disempowering question from a mind-set position. Now let's look at these two questions from the heart-set and how they make you feel.

Ask yourself this question out loud? "How come my money always runs out by the 22nd of every month?"

Identify where you feel the pain. Is it in your head? No? In your gut? Yes? When I ask that question I can feel a knife in my gut. It just feels like nausea. I can almost feel myself spiraling down into depression. Get in the feeling. Is that how it is for you?

Okay--quick! Ask yourself the empowering question out loud: "How can I finish every month with a $500 surplus in my checking account?"

Now--where do you feel that question? Does your spirit takes a leap of faith into possibility? Do you almost feel like you are riding on the wings of an angel that is carrying you into this beautiful place of abundance? What does that place look like? What does it smell like? Can you taste it? What flavor is it? What kind of music do you hear?

Stay there for a few minutes. Begin contemplating the feeling of that kind of energy. Do you suppose it might affect your friendships, your relationships, your appointments, your shopping habits? Do you suppose you might start hearing solutions--instead of problems?

Now begin to consider how are you going to feel when on the last day of the month you check your bank balance on line and discover there is a $500.00 surplus in your account.

How will you celebrate? Will you dance among the daisies? Will you call a friend? Take a bike-ride? Shout "woo-hoo" at the top of your lungs?

Roll the word "surplus" around on your tongue. How does that affect your emotions? Shout at the top of your lungs--I have a $500 surplus in my checking account. Does it make you tingle?

Okay, now begin imagining how you are going to invest that $500 in your future. Will you pay off credit cards? Will you chink away at college debt? Will you begin saving for a new home? Will you give it to charity? Will you use it to launch a new business?

Get into the emotion of this surplus. Keep repeating over and over. "It's the last day of the month and I have a $500 surplus in my checking account. Woohoo!" Feel it very deeply! Where is that feeling coming from?

Get totally into the emotion.

Now, go back and ask "How come my money always runs out by the 22nd of the month?"

What happened to the great positive emotions? Did you crash? Go back to the positive and ask it again. Get in the feeling of how the two are different.

Use this test to identify if the questions you are asking are empowering or disempowering.

Become aware of your disempowering questions. Remove them promptly! Replace them with empowering questions that make you want to dance among the daisies and shout woo-hoo into the heavens!